Healing

August 12, 2019August 12, 2019 | Marisa Rae

The word healing has different forms. It can be healing from a physical wound, or healing yourself. I’ve done both, but more healing myself than a wound I got.

Isn’t it crazy how someone can change you in such a positive way? But if they suddenly leave, you’re just stuck with picking yourself back up. Everyone heals differently, and at different speeds. Personally when I realized I didn’t have that person to talk to anymore that really scared me and I got that lonely feeling which also gave me horrible anxiety for the longest time. But I knew I could pick myself back up, make myself a stronger person mentally and psychically.

Hang out with family and friends more. Talk about how you’re feeling with anyone you trust, never bottle it up. Make sure you still try to eat 3 meals a day, get at least 8 hours of sleep every night, and try to get a little exercise in. Never keep yourself cooped up inside the house all day, as much as that may seem to be the best thing to do it really isn’t, trust me I know the pain.

You have to rediscover your love for your everyday life. You got so used to having someone by your side that had promised to always be there to show you how beautiful life can be when you two are together. Just because you may not have that person by your side doesn’t mean life isn’t beautiful anymore. If anything it just shows you how much life has to offer you everyday, and once again you’ll find the beauty in everyday life.

Yes, it’s going to hurt and you’ll start thinking about where it all went wrong. Yes, you’ll start to blame yourself, and think what if’s. But, in reality you did everything you could and it had nothing at all to do with you. Focus on your self love. It’s what makes a person shine so brightly. Everyone deserves to have self love within them.

At the end of this healing journey, you’ll look back at the struggles you once faced thinking it was your nightmare, and they will become your stepping stones to a path that’s something grater for you. Take that path and never look back at the past,

You’re not your past self anymore, you’re a new person that has new love for yourself. Pain doesn’t last forever, neither do we, so take care of yourselves and your bodies.

As my boyfriend would tell me. “If you’re breathing and alive, you are WINNING.”

So let’s all win together.

Step By Step…

September 29, 2018September 29, 2018 | Marisa Rae

It’s okay to not be okay during these times. Take a step back, breathe and start to look at the bigger picture. Sometimes you have to think of the bad times you and this person had, maybe then it’ll help you start accepting a lot faster.

Once things have settled in you start to accept.

Try not to let yourself think back on the good times, instead start thinking of what you can improve on. Make a bucket list, set goals for yourself, and slowly start accomplishing day by day. As much as we all would love to, we can’t heal fast at all. Our minds need time to process the events that happened especially if it was so sudden, and it’s good to give our minds that time to do so because if not then we’ll just hurt ourselves more than we need to.

Trust me, it’s normal to wonder about that person, what they’re doing right now, who they’re talking to, and if they’re thinking about you. I believe personally one day I will be friends with the person I lost because we didn’t end on bad terms at all. But, if you are someone who is opposite of that then take a break from social media, don’t talk to that person for awhile or ever again, and that’s good advice for everyone going through this. I’m taking time away from all of that myself currently because it’s just easier on my mind.

Step by step this is something we can conquer, and at the end you’ll feel like a better individual.

“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.”

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~Dalai Lama

Self Love

September 28, 2018 | Marisa Rae

Getting to know me:

Hello,

My name is Marisa Rae, and I’m a 20 year old nursing student.

I decided to make a blog as a way of guiding myself down the path of healing, and also help others who may need the guidance as well.

Everything in life happens for a reason, and although we may not understand why such a thing has happened to us weather it’s positive or negative eventually we will gradually start to understand. For myself currently, I do have my moments throughout the day, along with at night. I feel like I’m at my lowest point right now, but I also know eventually I can look at myself in the mirror and say “I’ll be ok”. Yes, I cry and it’s not a small amount of crying either. I learned it’s best to let all those feelings sink in rather then trying to not acknowledge them because once you are able to understand those feelings, and why you feel the way you do only then you can start your healing process. I admit I haven’t started my own process just yet but I am getting there one step at a time. But just know you’re never alone, and don’t ever think you’re not loved or you have no worth because I know you do. You have so many people who will always love, support you in life, and yes you may have recently lost someone special to you but don’t let that affect you mentally at all. We are all human. Please do not lose faith in yourself, we can get through it together one step at a time.